We all carry with us some kind of emotional heaviness. In many ways, we are still totally behind in the way we work with our feelings. Our world revolves around emotions and senses but, our society does not take seriously. It teaches and encourages us to go after good feelings but do not acknowledge the existence of “negative feelings” as a normal part of the life experience.
In many ways we are forced to press our feelings down from the very beginning of our lives, especially the negative ones which creates the chaos in this world and should be learned to release in a healthy way. We teach our children not to show hard feelings, to press them down and we try to be like they shouldn’t be there. All of this is just an unnecessary game we play because we don’t want to confront our hard feelings and we never learned how to deal with them ourselves.
After all, there are no negative feelings, there are only feelings that tell us something. The management of emotions and self-knowledge should be taught in school for our children. Emotional skills are extremely important skills for the journey of life.
Life inevitably brings difficult things to everyone. For some people more than others. The past hurts that happen to you, you will never forget them. They did happen and they are your past and your brain now has the memory of them.
But, you can heal them by becoming free from the feelings that they created in you. You can free yourself from feeling the same way about what happened.
Freeing yourself from your hurtful past is a process that is unique to everyone. All of us have special needs and things that will help and inspire us to grow and heal along the journey but, what is the same to everyone is that if you want to free yourself from your past, you will need to sit down and really face it. You have to be brave enough to feel the hard feelings and look at things from a broader perspective.
Here’s a powerful practice for you:
Sit down in silence with yourself and ask yourself this question;
What happened to me, why and with who?
And ask this question from an impersonal point of view, like you would be looking outside this situation as someone else.
Look at it from everyone’s point of view. From evolving evolution and humankind. Think about the whole picture of humans behavior and what is going on in this world and how our society’s rules and expectations affect your life and the behavior of all of us.
Look it from the point of view of others who were involved and through their whole life story. And look your part in it all. How did you participate in it yourself?
Do this without involving your way to see things, without judgment, without your hurts.
This is a very powerful practice that takes a lot of courage to look at things from everybody’s point of view without judgment. It can be very hard to do, depending on what has happened to you, but if you can do this practice and put your hurts and needs aside for a moment, you can see a bigger picture of everything. You can discover solutions and new ways of seeing things that you couldn’t imagine before.
Looking at things from an impersonal point of view is a powerful way to grow your understanding and can heal a great deal of emotional heaviness from your heart.
Doing this work you will take a big bold step forward the life where your heart is free and full of love.
Towards life that you deserve to live ❤
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