Allowing yourself to love and accept yourself completely as you are, is your true nature.
But, almost all of us fight in some level agains our own acceptance when we grow up. Some more than others and some of us, like I , so much that being becomes so difficult that the purpose of our whole life turns to be about learning to approve ourselves and finding the reasons behind this madness of not being enough.
All of this starts when we born. When we born, we ALL love ourselves and our true nature is being. We know how to be natural and we spontaneously act who we are and reach out to what we feel drawn to.
And then comes our parents, other adult people around us, society with ALL the RULES (*brules!) that we are expected to embrace so that we can become happy and successful. Our parents and society has it all figured out for us. They start to say to us who we need to become, what we need to do, accomplish and BE in order to become happy and approved.
(*Brule = bolshit rule. Word comes from Vishen Lakhiani)
Society encourages our parents to raise a child to become happy and have a good self-esteem. We are taught that by obeying how our parents wants us to be, act and look is the way to become a good person with happiness. Although this is actually the reason which robs us away from our natural way of being.
Wasn`t self love and good self-esteem naturally coded already inside of the child when she was born? Why do we think we have to raise our child to have them?
What if that would not be needed? Wouldn’t that make this race of controlling our children to become happy, totally negligible?
I think world is changing, we are starting to wake up to this truth. Wake up to understand that loving ourselves is our natural state of being. Loving our selves is our birthright and there`s something wrong in our systems of living and being.
And now you are adult and you are lost and you don’t know how to love yourself.
Start remembering who you were…
Start remembering what was natural to you when you were child… what made you excited when you were little. What did you loved to do before you were demonstrated, in words or gestures, to be shame of being who you loved to be?
Try to remember anything that you loved about yourself as a child.
Write everything down.
And start being. Start accepting just being.
First just observe yourself, your thoughts and feelings without making anything wrong or trying to push them away.
And start writing it all out.
First step is always accepting, being and just observing.
Start there ♥